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Welcome to ChosenFamilies.org. I am so glad you have come to visit.

We live in a world with God’s creativity all around us. We see unique beauty in the many things He created. Whether we look to animals, plants or people, we see God’s creative genius everywhere. Regarding people, we see the diversity of God’s handiwork in that 75-80% are neuro-typical — their brains are wired typically — while the other 20-25% are wired differently.

The world often considers these individuals to be disabled in some way. While I certainly understand this perspective, I can’t lose sight of the fact … Read more


The Intersection of a Public Meltdown and the Lord’s Prayer

We were having a meltdown moment. They don’t happen as often now as when Jude was younger, but he was tired and hungry. A few hours into a road trip, we stopped at one of our favorite chain restaurants. While waiting for our food, Jude’s frustration began to boil over, which he indicated by screams of protest offered up with increasing frequency. Already run down by the road and hungry ourselves, my wife and I tried to help him wait with the usual—iPhone, restaurant coloring placemat, the peg game on the table. Nothing worked.

I could feel the stares being … Read more

Grace Over Shame

There has been a sense of heaviness, sadness, fear, and tearfulness in the days since Robin William’s suicide has been reported.  Unfortunately, there has also been too much accusation, name-calling, judging, and shaming, as well.

The subject of suicide has surfaced often in therapy sessions with clients this week, as well. The Little Liar called depression keeps one bathed in darkness and feeling guilty, lonely, and inadequate. When hopelessness sets in, life feels too much. When people feel suicidal, they often also feel so alone that they don’t reach out to others. Sometimes, when they do reach out, the people … Read more