Would it look too desperate if I posted this ad in my local newspaper? Or maybe I could post my status on facebook as: Jealous that my husband is enjoying a Dad’s Night Out, and I’m home. My self-pity got even worse when my neighbor mentioned she was going out for dinner tonight with some girlfriends.
Is what I’m experiencing normal? Did you come to a point in bringing up your children when you just became so absorbed in their needs, their desires – that you lost yourself. You know – I don’t want to say it that way. I think what I really mean is that I lost my social self. Here I study social understanding, write social stories, and try to teach social skills – meanwhile I’ve lost my social life! When I had babies at home, it seemed there was more of a network of other mothers of young children. And before we had children it was easier to meet up with other young couples.
But where’s my network now? The other moms who want to enjoy a night out with friends, who don’t want to talk about their kids, who want to laugh and enjoy good conversation. Oh yeah, they too are likely picking up school papers off their kitchen counter; readying backpacks for tomorrow; going through the mail; doing laundry; thinking about how badly their house needs to be cleaned; making dinner; reading bedtime stories; doing… doing… doing.
And right on cue, another “So excited for tonight – it’s Girls-Night-Out!” status pops up on my facebook news feed. Yuck. Today…I just don’t wanna know.