Before I had children I envisioned children from that vantage point. Then I had children and reality set in. Soon after I realized that they may not be neuro typical children (that realization dawned at about 6 weeks of age with my first born son). I know that seems early but he was a fast learner (especially in the ODD department) and he was so hard to settle and so easily over stimulated. This became our “new normal”. Four more children and 23 years later and the oldest two are bringing new prospective family members into the fold. Will they be neuro typical or part of another “new normal”?
In the same way that I had ideas about my children before they were born I think I have ideas about future daughter- and son-in-laws. Is it wrong to expect and desire normal? Was it wrong to expect and desire normal in my offspring? I don’t think so but I know God always knows better than I do what is in my best interest. May I be brave enough to embrace another “new normal”? I could have said will I be brave enough but I think it is a choice I have to make and should make ahead of time.
Lord you have shown me you know best and I love the spiritual growth you have brought to our family. Help me always to submit to your will and know you are steering this ship and release the wheel to you. You control the storms and the winds obey you. May I always be obedient as well. I ask you to bless my children’s future mates whoever they may be.