I’m sure there are many reasons in the heavenly realms that I have been chosen to raise an amazing and sometimes challenging child like Daniel (age 17, ASD and learning disabilities). This week I re-discovered one of them and I am so glad the Lord allowed me a glimpse of it.
I was at a gathering with some friends and their children and was watching a very energetic teen bounce off the walls. He was a delightful young man and I really enjoyed his humor and energy. But his high energy also included some risk-taking behaviors – jumping off things, hanging out of the side and back of the hayride trailer. The moms in the trailer were constantly watching him with worry but his mom was very relaxed and, as long as he wasn’t in actual danger, let him “do his thing.” She explained that she was used to him and that he was actually just fine. It reminded me of when Daniel was little and was mostly demonstrating ADHD behaviors. He would stress others out but I was used to him.
I got to talk to the mom and told her how delightful her son was. I casually mentioned that God makes kids like him on purpose and has a wonderful plan for their high energy and risk-taking. I was surprised when she thanked me for this comment and said she needed the reminder. I also told her that I was VERY high energy as a child (so much so that my parents waited almost 8 years to have another child – but I’m sure I wasn’t the only reason they waited, right? ☺). Now, I am a caregiver for my father, disabled husband, son with Aspergers and learning disabilities and my neuro-typical daughter. I also work full-time as a teacher and homeschool. Now I know why I was (and am) so high energy – God knew what was in store in my life and made me that way on purpose, and I am so glad He did!
I was so thankful that I was able to encourage someone else, even if just a little bit, from the encouragement that I had previously received from the Lord and from his revealing of one of his purposes in making me and making my son Daniel. It reminded me of these verses: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” – 2 Corinthians 1:3,4
If you are in a stressful parenting situation with your “chosen child”, don’t forget to take note of the encouraging things, the things that God shows you. You may be able to use them to encourage someone else!