I have a friend on Facebook who plays games quite often. He & his wife share the account, so I find it funny when he plays games and I see several notifications that “she” is “spinning out of control…” again. Have you ever felt like that? It’s what I call the “stop this ride; I want to get off” sense of panic. Ever get the feeling that life is just too overwhelming and you simply can’t keep up with it?
A week or two ago, this was how I felt when I had so many questions and concerns about my daughter, myself, and my family in general. It was too much for me and it was all beyond my control. The very next day, a relative of mine had that same sense of anxiety in his voice; questions about a big move, a job that wasn’t what he expected, and what the future held. When looking at him, I saw myself more clearly. I had greater understanding for him and understood how he must have felt.
That’s why my thoughts of late have been about “control” or our “lack thereof.” Do any of us really know what tomorrow will bring? Of course not; but we know the One Who knows.
“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me?” (Jeremiah 32:27)
It may be too hard for us, but never for Him.
I mean, honestly, if God can create the heavens, the earth, and all that is in them, why do we think WE must be in control of things? Can we compete with God? Are we simply impatient, like the Israelites after they left Egypt?
We can easily find fault in the Israelites for whining and complaining so often, after God continually provided for them miracle by miracle. We have their story recorded in the Bible. Yet, consider how you would feel if you left behind the only life you knew to follow a path totally unknown to you.
Isn’t that the sort of thing that our kids with hidden disabilities face so often? They are anxious because they have “no control” over what may happen next. Their fears drive them to compulsions (those with OCD, like Flory) just so they THINK they have control over SOMETHING; only to find IT has control over them. It’s a vicious cycle.
To truly help them, besides medications and therapies, don’t we need to live the truth in front of them? Are we prepared to face the unknown with faith in the One Who is unseen? As parents and loved ones of these precious family members, I think we owe it to them (as well as to ourselves) to “let go” and realize that we must live by faith and trust; that we must cling to the Word God has given us and the times we know He has shown His personal love.
“Take therefore no thought for the morrow; for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” (Matthew 6:34)
I also like to remember the old saying, “Don’t borrow trouble.”
“Are not two sparrows sold for a farthing? and one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore, ye are of more value than many sparrows.” (Matthew 10: 29-31)
To sum up my thoughts (and to avoid using the bazillion wonderful verses I also found), I’ll leave you with this verse: “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee; because he trusteth in thee.” (Isaiah 26:3 – taped to my computer, lest I forget.)