</h1> <article> <h1>Comment on Created by God by Louise</h1> <p>Louise — Fri, 18 May 2012 14:46:23 +0000</p> <p>Thanks, Donna. Your friendship has meant a lot to us through all those years. And we will always remember your sweet Hannah as one of Stephen’s first best friends! </p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on Created by God by Donna Harper</h1> <p>Donna Harper — Fri, 18 May 2012 00:47:13 +0000</p> <p>Louise, </p> <p>Having known you and Bobby for more than 25 years now, I know this story and remember the two of you walking through that decision. Reading it again now that I am the mother of a son with bilateral cleft lip and palate it touches an even deeper place in my heart. When our road (with a not so hidden disability) gets hard, I’m reminded of Bobby and all that God has done in him and through him. I love reading your posts and appreciate your transparency in sharing your experiences. God used this one in particular to speak to me!</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on @.%. is a swear word? by Heather</h1> <p>Heather — Thu, 17 May 2012 16:01:39 +0000</p> <p>We have CHIPs here. It is a step up from Medicaid and we have co-pays and the like, as with private insurance. I know a lot of places don’t accept it b/c CHIPs will not pay them as much as other providers pay. Reading this makes me realize how blessed I have been with our doctors. No one has ever treated us badly due to CHIPs.</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on Created by God by Cassandra</h1> <p>Cassandra — Wed, 16 May 2012 02:44:54 +0000</p> <p>Louise, what a beautiful family! And a beautiful testimony. Part of my daily Bible reading today was Psalm 139: every day was planned for us before we are conceived. What a thorough, good God we serve.</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on Life Light Up by Ruth Lunceford</h1> <p>Ruth Lunceford — Sun, 13 May 2012 21:00:00 +0000</p> <p>Thank you, Cassandra, for a such a tender and relevant testimony.</p> <p>Happy Mother’s Day!!!</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on My identity – Me, as my son’s Mother by Ruth Lunceford</h1> <p>Ruth Lunceford — Sun, 13 May 2012 20:39:36 +0000</p> <p>I forgot to say one thing: try to not think of appearances. You know, and God knows, the truth. That is all that matters–hard to do, I know, but true. Others may condemn, but they are doing so out of their ignorance. And someday, these attitudes may come back to haunt them. My belief, based on what the Bible says, is that we all will be judged at the end of time. Only Jesus, who lived without sin, is qualified to judge sinfulness. So, even though the words and stares are hurtful, do your best to think of this child as God’s gift to you because He trusted you to be the best family to care for her.</p> <p>I hope that this message from a mother who did not have a difficult child to raise will be of some encouragement to you.</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on My identity – Me, as my son’s Mother by Ruth Lunceford</h1> <p>Ruth Lunceford — Sun, 13 May 2012 20:28:46 +0000</p> <p>Dear Trauma Mama,</p> <p>What a wonderful perspective you share: that we are stewards in raising our children. They do not belong to us, but to God. We are to do our best to raise them in such a way that HE will be pleased with our efforts. We must leave the results to Him. Indeed, we have no other choice, for we cannot control the lives of our children.</p> <p>Please know that, as a teacher, I have seen children fail to restrain their impulsivity, resulting in fights. And they had no such problem as RAD, but lack of good role models/teaching. Either way, it is difficult as a teacher, but I work on understanding individual situations–may not (most cases it does not) change the consequences–but gives me much-needed perspective on what may be happening from the child’s point of view. </p> <p>Be of good courage. God above, who knows when a sparrow falls, also knows what you go through day by day. (See Matthew 10:29-31.) He cares more than anyone else for you and your son. He placed this child with you and your husband. He does not make mistakes!!</p> <p>May your Mother’s Day be precious to you. You and your family will be in my prayers.</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on Whoa by Katja</h1> <p>Katja — Sun, 13 May 2012 04:28:06 +0000</p> <p>It is soooo hard to rest in Christ and not try to CONTROL something when life seems out of control. Thanks for the article. I needed it.</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on My identity – Me, as my son’s Mother by Shannon</h1> <p>Shannon — Sat, 12 May 2012 22:48:51 +0000</p> <p>Ron, your perspective and experience are a gift to those living with adoptive children struggling with RAD. Thank you for writing and encouraging others to hold on and be faithful stewards.</p> </article> <article> <h1>Comment on My identity – Me, as my son’s Mother by ron</h1> <p>ron — Sat, 12 May 2012 19:29:51 +0000</p> <p>My wife and I send our admiration, prayers, and a little bit of remorse that this website wasn’t around 15 or 20 years ago when we were in the midst of raising our RAD son… Our son is 27 now and at 22 or 23, God finally broke through where we had been locked out… so be encouraged… you are stewards…and know that the foundation you have established for him, may be the one that God ends up using to break down that wall! Your blog is a blessing and probably a sense of sanity to many that are living through what seems like an ‘insanity’ of RAD child rearing… Blessings</p> </article> </main></body></html>