Any way you slice it, it’s “a difficult task that takes a long time.” The difficult task? “Rejoice with those who rejoice” (Romans 12:15), in my case, rejoicing with parents who are talking excitedly about their children’s post-high school plans. Yesterday, while getting my locks colored to deep auburn, my Vietnamese-immigrant hair stylist said her 14 year-old daughter had gotten a full-ride, 4-year scholarship to George Mason University. At 14! This amazing story followed immediately on the heels of OUR 2 college visits in FL over Spring Break for our 17 year-old with autism who is a year behind his peers (which is right where he needs to be), did not interview well, and may not even graduate with a standard diploma next year.
It’s been awhile since I’ve been through this developmental-differential angst. In fact, I’ve been keeping it relatively together since Dan’s toddlerhood and embarrassment over delayed potty training. He’s our only child, so no sibling comparisons emerged. We just sucked it up and moved on and did the therapies and strategies and accommodations. And now we are praying for guidance for just the right placement after high school. But every once in awhile, this private undercurrent of pain surfaces, even though some would gladly trade their pain for mine; even though Dan has “a future and a hope;” even though “my God will supply all [my] need in Christ Jesus.”
So, Lord, give me joy on the journey, confidence in the conundrum, strength in the search, perseverance in prayer. Help me to really, fully, down to my core, rejoice with those who rejoice – unclouded by self-absorption and self-pity. (In otherwords, sin.) June of 2013 will be here before we know it. Amen.
~ Danz Mom, Peggy