I have always loved this passage from Ecclesiastes 3:
1 There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven-
2 A time to give birth and a time to die; A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
3 A time to kill and a time to heal; A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4 A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance.
5 A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones; A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
6 A time to search and a time to give up as lost; A time to keep and a time to throw away.
7 A time to tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to be silent and a time to speak.
8 A time to love and a time to hate; A time for war and a time for peace.
As we are in this particular season of our lives I feel like I should add another “time” for my son. It would be something like this, “A time to do your school work and a time to study; A time to learn and a time to reinforce what you have learned.” What he wishes it said was, “A time to rest and watch movies; A time to be carefree and a time to enjoy your free time.” But, as we struggle to keep up with current homework and turn in past due assignments that time is not now…there is no “free time.”
It is a difficult transition from childhood to the responsibility of young adulthood and not one that has been made easily by our Aspie. He enjoys playing and doesn’t enjoy the confines of school work and studying. After spending seven hours of his day in school, he doesn’t want to come home and spend three more hours sitting with textbooks open in front of him. I can’t say I blame him. I often think, if he can just get through high school (and now add to that college—whatever that is going to look like), then he can find a job that will be perfectly suited to his disposition.
So, I go back to this passage and trust God. There IS a time for everything. Right now is the time for school. As painful as it may be for both of us at times, we will make it through. When it is time for college, we will trust Him to guide us in the right path. When it is time for Stephen to find a job, we will trust God to provide for him then, in the appointed time.