One minute they were getting along wonderfully then next minute they were raising their voices and bickering, bickering, bickering. That is how quickly the temperature of the house changed.
Here is how the afternoon progressed. They played outside together. They planned to watch a video together. They ate dinner together while they watched the video. But then, as soon as the video was over and it was time to clean up, SHE committed the unpardonable sin (at least as far as her brother is concerned)—she began singing while she cleaned up.
And THIS is the ongoing battle in our home. Our daughter loves to sing … and dance … and make music. Our son with AS dislikes music and particularly dislikes his sister’s singing. He doesn’t really tolerate any of us singing along with the radio, but to refuse to let his eleven year old sister sing when music is in her heart just seems unreasonable at times. And, when she asks why he doesn’t want her to sing and he tells her that he doesn’t like her singing — never mind that he doesn’t like any of our singing — It hurts her feelings.
So, she sings, he asks her to stop, she continues because she believes she has a right to sing and we are torn with how to handle the desire to express herself musically with his desire to not hear her. Telling her just not to sing around him hasn’t worked. Asking him to be more tolerant of her hasn’t worked.
I guess the thing we have to figure out is who needs to have the bigger growth lesson here. Or maybe it is that they both need to learn to give a little and try to meet each other at some happy medium, if there is such a place that exists between a girl who loves to sing and a boy who doesn’t like music.